Win-win and economics
In my last post, I had discussed the idea of win-win. I think that it's a spectacular guide, but one which many people might "understand too quickly" - that is everyone feels they have a good grasp of it, but might actually not consider its implications. I certainly don't claim to have the inside track on it. But I did recently run across an idea that might reframe what win-win can mean.
In the book The Economic Rationalist, Robert H. Frank discusses what the right decision is for someone who is facing a situation where they need to share costs in order to get a benefit. The situation he describes is that there is a person who has a garden that is being plagued by rabbits. The rabbits live in some woods nearby that are owned by a neighbor. A fence would need to be erected between the properties in order to keep the rabbits out of the garden.
It would seem the fair thing to do would be to split the difference on the fence. But the economic solution took fairness out of the equation and looked exclusively at the benefit of the fence. If the fence provided enough of a benefit for the person with the garden, they should spring for the whole thing.
To me, that doesn't necessarily mean we shouldn't approach our neighbor with an offer of splitting the difference. But looking at benefit can be a way to not get caught up in fairness, which can put blinders on us. We naturally see things from our own perspective (see the fundamental attribution error). Benefit can be a different focus for us to use, and not necessarily just to try to always win out. I mentioned in my last post the idea that we should work to get people to want to interact with us more. That might be a reason to go ahead and split the difference on the fence, even though it's your neighbors garden. The ongoing positive relationship has value. The best case scenario, to me, is where we would be so creative and productive that what we offer is always seen as a benefit, so that people naturally want to be reciprocal.
Aaron
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Move his garden to the neighbors yard! The rabbits will follow. Since there is no fence he could still get to his garden! www.johnbwadsworth.com
One that barks all night in the woods? traps then sell the pelts?
Cui bono? Who benefits? Cato?
Don't get me started on 'Fair'!!!
Tim
Aaron-
Great article! In all "fairness" I have to say that benefit is not the first thing that would come to mind if someone had mentioned the idea of win-win to me. My thought process would have moved right towards what the fair thing to do would be. I will definitely be thinking about this more.
JenniferSkinner
The Road Warrior
"The best case scenario, to me, is where we would be so creative and productive that what we offer is always seen as a benefit, so that people naturally want to be reciprocal."
what an excellent idea! indeed, that is SO much more attractive and magnetic than when we just sort of barf out our idea of fairness. then we just feel pressured.
But when we can approach everything with an idea of seduction and attraction, like romantic relationships, human sexuality
then I certainly find we are more persuasive and we ALL benefit mutually.
but I know you already know how to close THAT deal because you are a newlywed!
Hi Aaron,
It always surpises me how many people promote Win-Win but fail to really grasp the true concept of implement in there everyday activities.
Paul www.paul-cunningham.co.uk
Life is not and should not ever be "fair", although I do like the idea of win-win.
I'm right with you. I think win-win is one of those high-concept catchphrases that people pepper into conversation. It sounds good, but what people normally associate it with is "fair", which, like I said, may or may not actually enter into the picture. It's much better to find out a way to end up better at the end that at the start. And like you said, if people implemented that into their daily life, I think they'd see big improvements.
Aaron
I think you're right on how to treat the word "fair" - it's a negotiation tool People may be more likely to accept something if it strikes them as "fair". Of course, that's a subjective judgment. If two people set out to negotiate something, focusing on what's fair will necessarily focus on what is subjective. That is, as you said, a very limited focus during negotiation.
Aaron
I agree with your take on not get caught up in fairness. Doesn't win-win come down to knowing the other party well enough to grasp what they'll perceive as a benefit?
Hmm... Great topic. Looking forward to your next post
Yann Vernier Sucess Coaching
Extrapolating that into the grown up world our political systems are also paralyzed in the interest of fairness. Again, we need to focus on solutions and results, which was the point of the original argument.
Steve Chambers Sales and Leadership website
Everything is at trade.
"Fair is a set of rules by which I win and you lose." Never fight 'fair' Play fair is good economic sense.
Tim
Don't know why, but that quote seemed to fit.
Steve
Aaron,
Good insights on the slippery concept of win-win. Stephen Covey had an excellent summary of the different negotiation mindsets involving winning and losing in his 7 Habits book.
I am myself developing the thoughts further in my web site www.4neg.com. I think the question of a far benchmark is the key here. We "win" from a deal, if the added value from it is higher than what was our benchmark. The benchmark is usually so called BATNA, or Best Alternative To Negotiated Alternative, to use William Uru's term from Getting to Yes.
- Sami
Negotiation Secrets